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It has been A while since I wrote and since I bumped in to a story which fascinate me enough to blog it. To dive deeper into it as always the meaning of life interests me. The contrast of how these people lived compare to our spoiled or civilized way of looking at life! And don’t understand me wrong I am super spoiled and super civilized and for me it is almost impossible to go to this kind of “sorting” life. I truly wish though that we are able to have this as a possibility , that it is normal to us as it was for them, then…and for us now.
So here is one of the most well-known stories about the Eskimos is the strange practice that they have adopted when facing death, and old age.

According to the popular conception, Eskimos must work so hard to survive that they simply cannot manage to support adults who are no longer contributing to the well-being of the group.

Thus, when old-age strikes, rather than waiting around as they dwindle toward death, eating food their companions fight to catch and clothing their companions struggle to construct, the elderly Eskimos are taken to sea, and set adrift on a floating iceberg.

Alone on their iceberg, the elderly must inevitably freeze or starve to death, facing their end, uncomfortable, and horrifyingly alone.

However, it is important not to instill modern Western values on the practices of another culture.
To see this as a disgraceful abandonment of those they should love the most is to fail to understand the dire circumstances which might lead to such a practice, as well as the spiritual understanding that might justify it.

As the Eskimos believed that another world awaited their dead, they would not be sending the elderly off to die and disappear, but to move on to the afterlife.

Beliefs aside, it is extremely important to understand how difficult survival was for an Eskimo family, and each person had to put their full attention toward their own survival. Though tasks may be shifted around so that the women accomplished the household tasks for both women and men, and the men hunted for both men and women, the productivity equaled out to just about one person’s daily work to accomplish one person’s daily needs.

For the old to be sent out to sea could actually be a blessing, a way to gracefully exit without becoming a burden and a point of resentment. In a way, this allowed the elderly to be preserved, in the minds of the living, in a more ideal state—untainted. They would be spared disgraces such as senility and loss of bodily function, and would, in some sense, be granted an opportunity to die without first decaying.

When people confront me with death in what ever shape of discussion or talk about it, I never see my self dying, maybe weird to say but it is just not in my constitution written, not my testament of planet earth , I will go to the afterlife as a afterparty and live on, linger around , whisper in your ears to explain life how I experienced it. The wrong and rights, the good and the bad, the flaws and the beyonds, the ultimates and the not to pay attention to anymore,.the divines , the things worth living for and worth lingering around for..LoveMeXXXX

Heart breaking picture which put you immediately back to zero, to where it all starts, to all the most important things in life which we take way to much and easy for granted. This little girl lost her mother and draw her on the poor streets in her country to lie with her again.

Love little things ..

I searched for an understandable feedback on the deep mother love what makes us partly who we are and how we react on things, especially matters of the heart. I found the most important things to a child in relationship to the mother. The father has of course his own importance to the child but in this case I searched for the mother role.

(Excerpted from the book The Mom Factor by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend )

As little people, we experience the world as dangerous. We feel alone. We don’t have love inside, we have overwhelming needs and feelings. This is painful. You can see this pain on the face of any infant who needs to be picked up or of the child who is terrified of something in her imagination. Safety can only be found in the mother or in whoever is providing the mothering. A mother’s nurture is fuel for the soul.

Mothers, through their love and care, make us feel wanted, which transfers into later feelings of worth and confidence in relationships. Apparently countless people feel “unlovable” or “unwanted,” when in reality lots of people love and adore them. It’s obvious that they have failed to receive the right love and care.

The sense of feeling wanted and loved is not an intellectual exercise that we can do for ourselves. It comes through the experience of being involved into relationship with another person. You may know intellectually that you are loved, but if you never felt loved by your Phantom Mom, your feelings won’t match up with what you know intellectually. When we experience being consistently wanted early in life, we move easily into other relational settings later, never wondering if we belong or not. If a mother or the surrogate mother provides safety, nurture, trustworthiness, belonging, and lovability, then the child is on his way to healthy development.

Emotional development comes not only from the mother’s investment in the child but also from the child’s investment in the mother. A mother provides someone for the child to love – she is a good “object of love.” In order to develop emotionally, physically, intellectually, and socially, we need not only be loved but to love. Love fills us up, and colors our outlook on others and the world in which we live, so that we view life with hope and optimism. We have a basic need to love people, and that requires someone to love. Lots of love in “the Mom factor”, as apparently very needed and welcome !

I hope this little girl will find someone to love and who will love her and color her life and so her drawings again.

(foto by 9Gag.com)

Little things ,

XXXX

The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon…
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

Beautiful Fullmoon Ibiza ,.Well so we did that.!I met the Wolf .. Out with the old, in with the new..

The first Full Moon of the year is always known as the Wolf Moon.

This full moon is, however, the only one that offers a definite way out of a crisis through decisive action. This year’s Wolf Moon will be something to look forward to since it’ll give off some much needed positive vibes.

Many of us may feel like we’ve literally been thrown to the wolves during the month of January. The planetary energy has been rocky and the start to 2016 has been anything but smooth. But as the saying goes, throw me to the wolves and I’ll come back leading the pack.

When things are down and out, they can’t remain like that forever. This Full Moon is going to be the point where we can turn things around. Some clarity may come to the table and a light bulb of awareness could get switched on.

The Full Moon always has a way of heightening awareness as well creating closure.

Interestingly enough, January’s Full Moon will fall in the sign of Leo and nobody likes to lead the pack more than this sign. Leo’s the sign that likes to laugh, let loose and let go of the seriousness. But lets talk Wolf first ,.. the wolf is anything but villainous and the feelings that come over us may be stemming from something else entirely. Once we get to know the true nature of the wolf, our perception will likely begin to change. Breakthroughs can happen if we’re open to seeing things a little differently. The truth is, a wolf will rarely, if ever, reveal himself. His fear of outsiders is much greater than those who fear him. He trusts his strong instincts to lead him through the rocky terrain..

Feelings have been hurt and parts of us have been wounded through the process. Perhaps we’ve been misrepresented just as the wolf has been. It’s also possible that we’ve seen the wolf come out in some that we never thought were capable. (A wolf in sheep’s clothing so to speak.)

Interestingly the wolf is a highly social animal and part of us may feel like getting out there and leading our pack in some way. Mental activity has been particularly intense and a lot of the ideas and thoughts that may have started to form can now be put into action. Full Moons create closure and bring things to another level.

All the annoyances that may have found us can now be set aside. It’s time to use what we’ve learned over the last several weeks and move forward. I’m not saying it’s going to be entirely easy. There are still some driving combinations that will last throughout the end of January, but progress will finally be seen once again.

It’s still important to be aware of our actions as well as new ways of looking at things. The three of these planets together are pushing us to be open to a new way of doing things and get off the cycle that’s perhaps trapped us in the past. As a small reminder let us not forget that we as human beings like patterns, it comforts us to know where we live in and with what or who, even if it is bad at least we ‘know’ the bad and “knowing” is strangely enough comforting us till the point to where it is gone. Only then we realise how bad it actually was, it is the fear of the pain it costs to break with our so well known pattern.

Whether we realize it or not, we’re in the midst of breaking down barriers that have held us back. The freeing spirit of the wolf is calling. We may have been thrown off course a bit but we can pick back up and come back stronger than ever.

Always remember that we can actually end up being the strongest during the moments we feel our weakest.

Let January’s Wolf Moon be a reminder that when we are thrown to the wolves it’s only a matter of time before we come back leading the pack. Let the wolf not wake us up too much these coming “before full moon nights”, I like to sleep , safe and sound..LoveMe

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Light as a feather

Fly and dream on, push politely and with a bit of luck you will get where you want to be !

Endless sea and the noise it makes!