It is me, I’m here ,..Today

It is me, I’m here ,..Today

A very sad story entered our lives on one of the supposedly most romantic days of the year ,of nowadays crazy commercial world we live in, instead this day turned out the be a very sad one. My heart is with the ones who stay behind and are trying to seek their way to find justification in when a loved one leaves our world unexpected, unsatisfied, lost in the insanity life can offer us sometimes.

It does has to tell us something as everything what happens in our lives has to have a meaning and has to teach us something. To at least find the smallest justification of our grief. Love the people you love, today, Tell them better too many times that you do, than too little, today, Try to see what is in front of you which makes you happy, today, Let all your anger go, today, Love your life , today.


I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I’m not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said ” it’s me.”

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It’s possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew…
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over… I smile and watch you yawning
and say “good-night, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.

Be patient, live your journey out…then come home to be with me.

Her heart , her dream, her loss

Her heart , her dream, her loss

Heart breaking picture which put you immediately back to zero, to where it all starts, to all the most important things in life which we take way to much and easy for granted. This little girl lost her mother and draw her on the poor streets in her country to lie with her again.

Love little things ..

I searched for an understandable feedback on the deep mother love what makes us partly who we are and how we react on things, especially matters of the heart. I found the most important things to a child in relationship to the mother. The father has of course his own importance to the child but in this case I searched for the mother role.

(Excerpted from the book The Mom Factor by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend )

As little people, we experience the world as dangerous. We feel alone. We don’t have love inside, we have overwhelming needs and feelings. This is painful. You can see this pain on the face of any infant who needs to be picked up or of the child who is terrified of something in her imagination. Safety can only be found in the mother or in whoever is providing the mothering. A mother’s nurture is fuel for the soul.

Mothers, through their love and care, make us feel wanted, which transfers into later feelings of worth and confidence in relationships. Apparently countless people feel “unlovable” or “unwanted,” when in reality lots of people love and adore them. It’s obvious that they have failed to receive the right love and care.

The sense of feeling wanted and loved is not an intellectual exercise that we can do for ourselves. It comes through the experience of being involved into relationship with another person. You may know intellectually that you are loved, but if you never felt loved by your Phantom Mom, your feelings won’t match up with what you know intellectually. When we experience being consistently wanted early in life, we move easily into other relational settings later, never wondering if we belong or not. If a mother or the surrogate mother provides safety, nurture, trustworthiness, belonging, and lovability, then the child is on his way to healthy development.

Emotional development comes not only from the mother’s investment in the child but also from the child’s investment in the mother. A mother provides someone for the child to love – she is a good “object of love.” In order to develop emotionally, physically, intellectually, and socially, we need not only be loved but to love. Love fills us up, and colors our outlook on others and the world in which we live, so that we view life with hope and optimism. We have a basic need to love people, and that requires someone to love. Lots of love in “the Mom factor”, as apparently very needed and welcome !

I hope this little girl will find someone to love and who will love her and color her life and so her drawings again.

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Little things ,