by Lolo | Feb 16, 2016 | Love
A very sad story entered our lives on one of the supposedly most romantic days of the year ,of nowadays crazy commercial world we live in, instead this day turned out the be a very sad one. My heart is with the ones who stay behind and are trying to seek their way to find justification in when a loved one leaves our world unexpected, unsatisfied, lost in the insanity life can offer us sometimes.
It does has to tell us something as everything what happens in our lives has to have a meaning and has to teach us something. To at least find the smallest justification of our grief. Love the people you love, today, Tell them better too many times that you do, than too little, today, Try to see what is in front of you which makes you happy, today, Let all your anger go, today, Love your life , today.
LoveMeXXXX
I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I’m not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said ” it’s me.”
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It’s possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew…
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over… I smile and watch you yawning
and say “good-night, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out…then come home to be with me.
by Lolo | Feb 11, 2016 | Uncategorized
Heart breaking picture which put you immediately back to zero, to where it all starts, to all the most important things in life which we take way to much and easy for granted. This little girl lost her mother and draw her on the poor streets in her country to lie with her again.
Love little things ..
I searched for an understandable feedback on the deep mother love what makes us partly who we are and how we react on things, especially matters of the heart. I found the most important things to a child in relationship to the mother. The father has of course his own importance to the child but in this case I searched for the mother role.
(Excerpted from the book The Mom Factor by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend )
As little people, we experience the world as dangerous. We feel alone. We don’t have love inside, we have overwhelming needs and feelings. This is painful. You can see this pain on the face of any infant who needs to be picked up or of the child who is terrified of something in her imagination. Safety can only be found in the mother or in whoever is providing the mothering. A mother’s nurture is fuel for the soul.
Mothers, through their love and care, make us feel wanted, which transfers into later feelings of worth and confidence in relationships. Apparently countless people feel “unlovable” or “unwanted,” when in reality lots of people love and adore them. It’s obvious that they have failed to receive the right love and care.
The sense of feeling wanted and loved is not an intellectual exercise that we can do for ourselves. It comes through the experience of being involved into relationship with another person. You may know intellectually that you are loved, but if you never felt loved by your Phantom Mom, your feelings won’t match up with what you know intellectually. When we experience being consistently wanted early in life, we move easily into other relational settings later, never wondering if we belong or not. If a mother or the surrogate mother provides safety, nurture, trustworthiness, belonging, and lovability, then the child is on his way to healthy development.
Emotional development comes not only from the mother’s investment in the child but also from the child’s investment in the mother. A mother provides someone for the child to love – she is a good “object of love.” In order to develop emotionally, physically, intellectually, and socially, we need not only be loved but to love. Love fills us up, and colors our outlook on others and the world in which we live, so that we view life with hope and optimism. We have a basic need to love people, and that requires someone to love. Lots of love in “the Mom factor”, as apparently very needed and welcome !
I hope this little girl will find someone to love and who will love her and color her life and so her drawings again.
(foto by 9Gag.com)
Little things ,
XXXX
by Lolo | Jan 24, 2016 | Uncategorized
The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon…
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.
by Lolo | Jan 24, 2016 | Uncategorized
Beautiful Fullmoon Ibiza ,.Well so we did that.!I met the Wolf .. Out with the old, in with the new..
